My "nothing to do" day

Hi there..!!! :) Btw I did some questionnaire to some people on my "nothing to do" day.

Here is the question:
* Doesn't do sex before married..?Anyone still doing it? Is there still a lot who do that?

And bellow are some of the answers..
1. Precious J:"yah a lot of people do that"
2. Common Sense:"Most people have sex before marriage"
3. sweethunn...: "I am 15 and am gonna wait till am married b4 i have sex coz thats what best"
4. General Custer: "There are a few (1%)"
5. Maddy: "There are plenty of people who do that. I still am. Many of my friends do it. My church is a bit strict about things like that and its always a good idea. Most marriages that I've known, that save sex for marriage usually work out very well. There is no worries about STI's or STD's or anything."
6. godof5nat...: "yup :) "
7. Roger N: "Who would buy a car before the test drive?"
8. hummingbi...: "Most people do have sex before marriage, however there are some who do wait. And for those who do wait, they are so special and they will have a very special bond."
9. sensa: "Its rare and happens only in jungles"
10. St. Helena Woman :o): "My husband & I waited to have sex after we were married. I was a virgin bride at the age of 28. It is not that hard to do. People who wait until they are married are less likly to get divorced. Love making is for married people only."
11. scrubs: "there are still a few....it depends on their religion and beliefs....also depends on the guy...there are selfish guys who treat women as an object....like associating sex with a car and test drive....."
12. Prissie: "Who cares what everyone else is doing...or not doing.I always tell my kids and their friends to think for themselves. Be strong in their beliefs and know that what ever they do they are going to think it out before doing anything they are going to regret.Be the leader...not the follower!!!Good Luck!!!"
13. crazylegs: "Probably a lot more than anyone is aware of. We only hear of those who are pretty active but not of the people who still want to save themselves for that special night (wedding night). It's actually pretty damn sad that young people especially feel they have to become so sexually active so early in order to try and fit in with the crowd. "
14. kiki: "ive had sex but i wish i woudnt had.. i would like to wait with my current bf but the temptation is so strong. its good to wait. we talk about waiting even tho its been done. but when alcohol comes in the picture it makes it even harder. if i had never done it it would be easier for me not to now."
15. ermintham: "never until im married"

So what about you? want to answer my question? just for fun. nothing will be seriously taken :)

Guilty

Ibu2 pernah ga suatu hari ngerasain males masak??? Kalo pernah, merasa bersalah ga sama suami??

Kasiaaaan deh lo!! :)

Tadi aku pergi ke toko buku sama suamiku. Lengkap dengan tas tangan favorit aku, berangkatlah kita ke sana. Saat mau ke luar dari metro, kita jalan berdampingan. Suamiku di kiri, aku di kanan. Ceritanya mau mesra, dia rangkul aku. Ehhhh tiba2 ada Ibu2 bilang gini ke aku "Madame attention votre sac!!!" alias "Bu hati2 tasnya!!" :) Aku kaget setengah mati. Setelah aku ngeh ternyata yang dimaksud ibu2 itu adalah tangannya suamiku!!! Hihihihi kasian ya suamiku disangka copet!!!

Terus setelah dari toko buku, kita pulang ngelewatin taman gitu. Biasa deh jalan berdua suami kalo ga gandengan ya rangkulan dong pasti.. Apalagi winter gini hehehehe.. Ehhhh tiba2 lagi.. ada ibu2 tua yang nyamperin sambil marah2 and ngacung2in tongkatnya gitu.. Di bilang ke suamiku "Anda mau saya laporkan polisi? Dating (kencan) sama wanita di bawah umur itu dilarang!! Mau ya saya laporkan polisi?!!!" Kita berdua kaget banget, tapi udahannya aku ga tahan banget pengen ketawa..hihihihi. Kita jelasin kalo kita ini suami istri. Eh dianya ga percaya... Dia tetep mo manggil polisi. Akhirnya suamiku kesel dia bilang ke ibu2 tua itu "Terserah deh ibu mau ngapain" Terus kita berdua ngeloyor pergi.

Sampai di rumah aku ledekin lagi suamiku. "Aduh kasian yang tadi diomelin nenek2.. hihihi Tau ga, secara gak langsung ibu2 tua itu bilang aku ini awet muda.. dan kamu .....?!!! hihihihi" Dia kesel "Kamu mo bilang aku ini muka tua ya..?? Dasar!!! Anyway..What a rough day"

Sampe sekarang kalo aku senyum2, dia masih suka gimanaaaa gitu.. hihihihi kacian ya??!! :)

Bingung

Pernah ga sih saking kita menginginkan sesuatu, kita sampai ga sadar kalo keinginan kita itu secara otomatis udah jadi bagian dari doa kita sehari-hari? benar2 udah jadi habit and part of it, sampai ga dipikirkan lagi. Misalnya: dari umur 23 tahun sampai 29 tahun saya selalu berdoa agar cepat diberi jodoh. Sampai umur 26 tahun saya masih amat sangat berharap sekali semoga doa saya itu cepat terkabul. Tapi setelah usia 26 tahun berlalu jodoh itu belum juga datang, saya mulai berpikir.. ah ya sudahlah, dikasih jodoh syukur, nggak ya ga papa. Tapi saya masih tetap mengucapkan doa yang sama karena doa tadi itu sudah jadi rutinitas, habit and part of my pray, yang waktu mengucapkannya hanya sambil lalu ga dari hati yang terdalam seperti sebelumnya. Apa itu yang namanya pasrah?? Pasrah atau tidak peduli ya?? Hmmm.. Saya jadi bingung...

Note: Masalah jodoh sudah terselesaikan, I have been married for one year. Alhamdulillah.

When you say you love me

Like the sound of silence calling,
I hear your voice and suddenly
I'm falling, lost in a dream.
Like the echoes of our souls are meeting,
You say those words and my heart stops beating.
I wonder what it means.
What could it be that comes over me?
At times I can't move.
At times I can hardly breath.

When you say you love me
The world goes still, so still inside and
When you say you love me
For a moment, there's no one else alive

You're the one I've always thought of.
I don't know how, but I feel sheltered in your love.
You're where I belong.
And when you're with me if I close my eyes,
There are times I swear I feel like I can fly
For a moment in time.
Somewhere between the Heavens and Earth ,
And frozen in time, Oh when you say those words.

When you say you love me
The world goes still, so still inside and
When you say you love me
For a moment, there's no one else alive

[bridge:]
And this journey that we're on.
How far we've come and I celebrate every moment.
And when you say you love me,
That's all you have to say.
I'll always feel this way.

When you say you love me
The world goes still, so still inside and
When you say you love me
In that moment,I know why I'm alive

When you say you love me.
When you say you love me.
Do you know how I love you?


Happy 1st anniversary ya suamiku sayang. Luv you always...

Song: Josh Groban Video: Final Fantasy game

Unpleasant surprise

Hari ini aku kedatangan period. Harusnya hari Minggu lalu. Udah terlambat 5 hari. Hati udah berharap, ternyata tetap datang. Ya udahlah.. memang mesti bersabar lagi kali yahhh. Well maybe next month. We never know. I will just keep praying. May God answers my pray this time. Amien..

Different culture

One of the dating tips for Indonesian girls: Do not have sex before married. He will only think about the sex and even more, he will think that you are an easy girl.

One of the dating tips for western girls: Do not have sex on the first date. Having sex on the first date will make your relationship becoming so superficial. He will think about the sex, nothing else.

Sebenernya inti dari tips2 tersebut sama ya, cuma timeframe-nya aja yang beda. Yang pertama before married, yang kedua lebih longgar cuma on the first date selebihnya suka2 aja asal jangan sampe hamil/MBA/Hamdan ATT (Hamil duluan Anak Tanda Tanya) or kena AIDS . Kenapa ya timeframe yang western country lebih cepat dari Indonesia? Apa karena mereka negara maju, jadi semuanya memang lebih cepat?Jangan2 nanti di Indonesia juga akan terjadi pergeseran timeframe?

Anyway yang bikin aku bingung dan takut, gimana ya nanti kalo aku punya anak perempuan? Aku kan tinggal di negara yang notabene hampir semua penduduknya menjalankan the second tips instead of the first one?!! Any sugesstion?

My best friend's wedding

My best friend is getting married today. Too bad I cannot be there. Well the only thing I can do from here is to wish her a very happy marriage live. Semoga jadi keluarga yang sakinah, mawardah, warahmah. Amien.